I heard an interesting Ted talk a couple of weeks ago by Brene Brown on the Power of Vulnerability. There were a lot of interesting things said but one thing that really stood out to me was about emotions.
Do you ever wish that you could turn your emotions on and off? Sometimes it is just truly necessary to stifle your emotions whether it is to protect yourself, not wanting to upset your children or for many other reasons. But how do you stop from becoming numb? The Ted Talk was talking about pushing your emotions down or neutralizing your emotions can actually make you more numb. "You cannot selectively numb emotion"..."you can't say here's grief, here's shame, here's fear, here's disappointment. I don't want to feel these." "You can't numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects or emotions. When we numb those, we numb joy, gratitude, happiness. We are miserable. We are looking for purpose and meaning and then we become vulnerable."
So tell me this, how are elderly individuals still emotional and not becoming numb? I guess it kinda explains the crotchety elderly person. Have they just used the anger or become crotchety to protect themselves? Is it just a coping mechanism from all the pain that they have endured in their lifetime? Is it just them dealing with the disappointment?
So how do we avoid becoming numb? How do we avoid becoming that crotchety elderly person? Let's face it, life has a lot of tough things unless somehow your life is perfect? Are you one of those fortunate individuals that has lived the privileged life without any challenging situations? Consider yourself fortunate! But I think most of us have had our struggles.
We have to learn to believe that we "are worthy of love and belonging." "Believing that we are enough because when we believe that we are enough, we stop screaming and start listening, we are kinder and gentler to people around us and we are kinder and gentler to ourselves." Wow! Sounds great to me. Where do I begin?